Do I really need to hire a professional “anybody”.
Answer: NO…But it SURE does help!
Around the time that Lady Diana Spencer married Prince Charles in 1981… Weddings got a lot more lavish and an industry catapulted out of control.
The latest Royal Wedding had a budget of such magnitude that it easily could support me as a woman of leisure for the rest of my life just sitting in a bank account collecting 1 percent interest. Most of us have to work for a living.
Costco and Sam’s Club have “Veggie Platters” and “Ready to Eat” Appetizers to die for.
Your Local Grocer has fantastic cakes.
(Or perhaps you have someone in your family who can still BAKE?)
Photography & Videography
Everyone and their brother has a digital camera (both video and still) on their Smart Phones.
Computers and software have made custom playlists ridiculously easy.
(Most people have huge music libraries stored in their Smart Phones)
Decor & Design
Mail Order and the Internet Warehouses have brought wholesale invitations, flowers, linens, chair covers and anything else you can imagine to the masses.
Everything today is “Do-It-Yourself” and for good reason.
Today’s weddings can cost a fortune!
Why not put a downpayment on your first home and elope?
Nothing about what you are hiring on your wedding day is rocket science……However… you don’t want to be a “working stiff” on your own wedding day!!!!
And while nothing is “rocket science”…..don’t fool yourself either. The results can be catastrophic!
Don’t imagine yourself as Martha Stewart if you’ve NEVER been crafty in your life.
Don’t imagine yourself as Betty Crocker, if your idea of preparing a meal involves opening a pre-prepared package of anything.
Don’t believe that your friends will be able to focus their cameras on ANYTHING after consuming a few adult beverages.
If you’ve NEVER been an organized person and never planned anything more than 24 hours in advance, don’t fool yourself into thinking you can do it alone.
And don’t even get me started on all the things that can go wrong with an iPod…..woof!!!!! The only time that REALLY works is if you only want background music for 5 hours and you don’t really care about the ebb and flow of your event.
If you REALLY want the big party….
The secret is to prioritize your costs and spend your money on the items you value most.
If your wedding gown is your #1 priority…go and get that Vera Wang dress!
(Or the knock-off which is still quite pricy.)
If you want to get married at The Waldorf-Astoria because the location is important…put down the cash and wait 3 years to get married.
If having the most amazing food you and your guests have ever tasted is your priority…hire the very best chef! (Or go to the best venue who has the best chef.)
If you want your guests to walk into your ballroom amazed at the beauty…hire the best designers, florists and lighting designers to create the “WOW!”.
If wedding photography and videography that captures your memories for the next generation is most important…hire the best photographer and videographer!
If you are a very busy professional and don’t have time to handle all the little details…hire a professional wedding planner! Even if you are just a crazy working woman who needs a little help…hire a professional wedding planner! (It’s not really fair to ask your mother or sister to do that…you want them to speak to you after the wedding.)
If you want an amazing party that friends and family will remember forever…hire a professional DJ or Band and a professional Master of Ceremonies!
Everyone has different priorities. Decide what your priorities are…and make decisions accordingly.
Trust your own instincts and you WILL have the wedding and reception that is right for you!
Liz Daley is the owner of Liz Daley Events, a boutique entertainment company that promises dramatically different results. She works with brides and grooms to create Classic, Fun and Memorable wedding receptions. She holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from The Boston Conservatory of Music, she is a Wedding Entertainment Director™ and the National President of the Wedding Entertainment Directors Guild™ and an Accredited Bridal Consultant™ with the Association of Bridal Consultants. She is currently co-teaching an educational workshop for Wedding DJs and Masters of Ceremonies entitled, “Make It GRAND!”