Do I Really NEED to hire a Professional Wedding Planner?

Do I really need to hire a professional “anybody”.

Answer:  NO…But it SURE does help!

 

Around the time that Lady Diana Spencer married Prince Charles in 1981… Weddings got a lot more lavish and an industry catapulted out of control.

The latest Royal Wedding had a budget of such magnitude that it easily could support  me as a woman of leisure for the rest of my life just sitting in a bank account collecting 1 percent interest.  Most of us have to work for a living.

 

Reality Check:

Catering:

Costco  and Sam’s Club have “Veggie Platters” and “Ready to Eat” Appetizers to die for.

Cakes

Your Local Grocer has fantastic cakes.

(Or perhaps you have someone in your family who can still BAKE?)

Photography & Videography

Everyone and their brother has a digital camera (both video and still) on their Smart Phones.

Entertainment/Music

Computers and software have made custom playlists ridiculously easy.

(Most people have huge music libraries stored in their Smart Phones)

Decor & Design

Mail Order and the Internet Warehouses have brought wholesale invitations, flowers, linens, chair covers and anything else you can imagine to the masses.

 

Everything today is “Do-It-Yourself” and for good reason.

 

Today’s weddings can cost a fortune!

 

Why not put a downpayment on your first home and elope?

 

Nothing about what you are hiring on your wedding day is rocket science……However… you don’t want to be a “working stiff” on your own wedding day!!!!

 

And while nothing is “rocket science”…..don’t fool yourself either.  The results can be catastrophic!

 

Don’t imagine yourself as Martha Stewart if you’ve NEVER been crafty in your life.

Don’t imagine yourself as Betty Crocker, if your idea of preparing a meal involves opening a pre-prepared package of anything.

Don’t believe that your friends will be able to focus their cameras on ANYTHING  after consuming a few adult beverages.

If you’ve NEVER been an organized person and never planned anything more than 24 hours in advance, don’t fool yourself into thinking you can do it alone.

And don’t even get me started on all the things that can go wrong with an iPod…..woof!!!!!  The only time that REALLY works is if you only want background music for 5 hours and you don’t really care about the ebb and flow of your event.

 

If you REALLY want the big party….

 

The secret is to prioritize your costs and spend your money on the items you value most.

If your wedding gown is your #1 priority…go and get that Vera Wang dress!

(Or the knock-off which is still quite pricy.)

 

If you want to get married at The Waldorf-Astoria because the location is important…put down the cash and wait 3 years to get married.

 

If having the most amazing food you and your guests have ever tasted is your priority…hire the very best chef! (Or go to the best venue who has the best chef.)

 

If you want your guests to walk into your ballroom amazed at the beauty…hire the best designers, florists and lighting designers to create the “WOW!”.

 

If wedding photography and videography that captures your memories for the next generation is most important…hire the best photographer and videographer!

 

If you are a very busy professional and don’t have time to handle all the little details…hire a professional wedding planner!  Even if you are just a crazy working woman who needs a little help…hire a professional wedding planner! (It’s not really fair to ask your mother or sister to do that…you want them to speak to you after the wedding.)

 

If you want an amazing party that friends and family will remember forever…hire a professional DJ or Band and a professional Master of Ceremonies!

 

Everyone has different priorities.  Decide what your priorities are…and make decisions accordingly.

Trust your own instincts and you WILL have the wedding and reception that is right for you!

 


Liz Daley, The Fun Wedding Gal

Liz Daley Events

Liz Daley is the owner of Liz Daley Events, a boutique entertainment company that promises dramatically different results.  She works with brides and grooms to create Classic, Fun and Memorable wedding receptions. She holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from The Boston Conservatory of Music, she is a Wedding Entertainment Director™ and the National President of the Wedding Entertainment Directors Guild™ and an Accredited Bridal Consultant™ with the Association of Bridal Consultants. She is currently co-teaching an educational workshop for Wedding DJs and Masters of Ceremonies entitled, “Make It GRAND!”

 

Ladies Night, “Relay for Life” Fundraiser at Two Rivers Country Club raises money for American Cancer Society.

Dancing Queens

Mary Ann Moxon and Kaye Vickerman helped organize a “Ladies Night” at Two Rivers Country Club at Governor’s Landwhere over 100 ladies came out to celebrate life and being a woman with the support of Master of Ceremonies, Liz Daley of Liz Daley Events spinning classic dance tunes from the 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and 80’s!

First up…..a special performance from “Kaye and the Club-ettes”…..and their rendition of “Dancing Queen”!

This set the tone for a fantastic evening of frivolity and fun!

 

Conga!!!

The dance floor stayed packed the entire night and the ladies created the BEST “Conga Line” I have seen in years!!!!!

It was completely impromptu and every lady in attendance joined in…and it was AMAZING!!!!

Ladies of all ages danced the night away and had a fantastic time!

Salsa!

All the Ladies Learned to SALSA!!!!!!

 

Here’s to the LADIES of Two Rivers Country Club!!!!!

 

Closing Down The Club!

Liz Daley

Liz Daley Events

Liz Daley is the owner of Liz Daley Events, a boutique entertainment company that promises dramatically different results. She works with brides and grooms to create Classic, Fun and Memorable wedding receptions. She holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from The Boston Conservatory of Music, she is a Wedding Entertainment Director™ and the National President of the Wedding Entertainment Directors Guild™ and an Accredited Bridal Consultant™ with the Association of Bridal Consultants. She is currently co-teaching an educational workshop for Wedding DJs and Masters of Ceremonies entitled, “Make It GRAND!”

When To Do Your Formal Wedding Dances?

Photo Courtesy of Brad Howe Photography

When to do your Formal Wedding Dances?

The question of when to do formal wedding dances as you plan your wedding reception agenda can seem daunting, however there are three very popular choices that have proven to work very well in my experience.

 

Choice #1

Do your First Dance…FIRST…directly following your Grand Introductions.

This is generally the most popular choice.  One of reasons why the “First Dance” should be FIRST is because wedding protocol suggests that no one should dare dance until after the bride and groom have shared their First Dance as husband and wife.

If you take care of this formality immediately, then your guests can feel free to dance with their spouse earlier in the evening: during dinner, or between courses,  if the DJ or Wedding Band plays a song that inspires them or is very special to them. ( and they can do so without fear of being “rude”)

Another reason for doing the “First Dance” first, as well as the Father/Daughter Dance and the Mother/Son Dance is to simply get them OUT of the way.  Many brides and grooms (as well as their parents) get nervous about 200 of their friends and family eye-balling them for 3 to 5 minutes while they struggle NOT to appear awkward on the dance floor.  (not everyone looks as good doing the waltz as Derek Hough on Dancing with the Stars)

 

Quick Suggestion: Ask your Wedding DJ Entertainer or Wedding Band to prepare  a shorter version of your songs.  This can cut as much as one to two minutes time from each dance, which is quite a relief to the shy and reserved.  Better yet, you can combine the parent dances (Father/Daughter and Mother/Son) to save even more time if being the center of attention isn’t your thing.

 

 

Choice #2

Wait until after dinner to do all the formal dances. People have eaten, they have had a drink and generally they are more relaxed.  Making this decision can also create an impetus to “get the dancing started” with a bang!

 

Quick Suggestion: Make sure to have your Wedding Band or Wedding DJ Entertainer play your favorite uptempo song immediately following the formal dances to “jump start” the action…to let everyone know that it is time to dance.  In fact, you could “hand pick” that song and make sure its one that you absolutely love …one that you love so much, that you and all your friends will immediately storm the dance floor.

 

 

 

 

Photo Courtesy of Brad Howe Photography

Choice #3

Do the “First Dance” First and the Parent Dances after dinner.

This combination gives you the best of both worlds for all the reasons stated above.  You have followed tradition and still done the First Dance, “FIRST”….but you also get the benefit of breaking up the formal dances so your guests can be served their meal just a little bit earlier and you can have a clear “starting point” to the dancing portion of your party!

Photo Courtesy of GrantDeb Photographers

Please come back and visit for more insights into creating a fun and memorable wedding reception!

Liz Daley, The Fun Wedding Gal

Liz Daley Events

Liz Daley is the owner of Liz Daley Events, a boutique entertainment company that promises dramatically different results. She works with brides and grooms to create Classic, Fun and Memorable wedding receptions. She holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from The Boston Conservatory of Music, she is a Wedding Entertainment Director™ and the National President of the Wedding Entertainment Directors Guild™ and an Accredited Bridal Consultant™ with the Association of Bridal Consultants. She is currently co-teaching an educational workshop for Wedding DJs and Masters of Ceremonies entitled, “Make It GRAND!”